Harsh

What makes you think that what happens to you is special in any way?
Is different, has some meaning, rather than being a weird play of circumstances, just a sequence of random occurrences of one kind or another? What makes you think that you’re special in any way, that your story somehow stands out from the millions and millions of other stories of other women? What makes you think…. that all that happens to you has some kind of purpose, other than being one of the millions of the experiences that so many people have, simply adding up more weight to the sack of your own experiences that you carry on your back, refusing to part with them and tiring yourself to death dragging it on and on… This is what makes you jaded… and you wonder why you’re as apathetic as you are now?

What makes you think that giving different names to things that already have their objective, already used and abused and overly common and banal names would change them even a bit, make them different, yours only, and hence unique? What makes you think you’re unique anyway? Aren’t you human after all? And thus subject to all human emotions and thoughts and everything else? Do you think it gives you any sort or kind of excuse to justify your own behavior which you perfectly well know is unjustifiable? And that the overall picture viewed from aside is exactly what you’re trying to ignore- putting yourself in some kind of denial, merely looking for delusion after delusion and thus ending up in the most absurd and ridiculous situations? You stamp your foot on the ground and say that it’s through this absurdity and nonsensical behavior that you get to experience what you wouldn’t have otherwise. You say that it’s through randomness that you learn to see a pattern… You say that you’ve changed, that you’ve grown and matured and have learned the lessons for which you had to pay such great prices and suffer so many losses… And yet, can you not see that the way you act and react is not much different than what it was when you were sixteen? At least you didn’t have the arrogance back then to make assumptions of being always right for choosing to do whatever would come to your mind at the spur of the moment…

How many more blows can you take? Till when can you continue to destruct yourself causing more and more harm to your body and soul, tormenting them like you wouldn’t treat even your own enemy… Are you your worst enemy? Is it what you think you deserve? Shouldn’t there be some kind of self-respect towards your own self before you can appreciate the respect of the others? These days you are rather annoyed when there is even a hint of praise directed towards your way… and why is that? Perhaps because you do not have much respect left for anything or anyone, and first of all towards yourself? Afraid to face what comes so close to being the truth? Yes, it is the truth, and I am speaking it to you, the judge, the harsh critic that’s been living in your head all this time, and the voice that you’ve so successfully learned to block and repress lately…Why do you always have to learn through pain, through the hardest way… because for some reason once you have told yourself that you do not want an easy life, a life that has at least some grain of rationality in it? So what kind of life do you actually want? Life that makes no sense, even to yourself, life that’s confused and nonsensical any way you try to look at it? But this is what I want, you say, and now, left to your own devices, all you do is sit and wait for some kind of sign, another cryptic cosmic message so that you can confuse yourself even more?

Is there a limit on how jaded you can get? Is there a limit on how much pain you can endure? Is there a limit to how much time you waste and to the degree of damage you cause to yourself before you kill yourself and drop dead without even noticing how you slowly extinguished yourself, and what a waste… Such a waste, Such a waste of time, and faith and everything that went into making you, on who you grew to become, on who you really are, and who you could have been had you had more foresight in the past, have you had more reasoning and common sense… You said you wanted to be a woman alone. A free woman. What makes you think that this was the path to your womanhood, that you have chosen it right, that this is the only way to go, the only road that you can claim as yours among so many that lay in the vast expands of endless possibilities. You say that’s what you want, these unlimited, neverending possibilities, because without them you say there is no freedom, because without them your life comes to its end...
So what do these possibilities offer you, what is it that you have? Womanhood interrupted? Ruins and shambles and once again the real risk of falling apart within a blink of an eye, within the slightest blow of the wind, and the slightest breath of the wintry cold… You know you are going to fall apart, even if you stay intact from the outside, you know that sooner or later you will have to face what you’ve been avoiding all these years, face and accept and perhaps swallow all these truths that you knew were there, and yet you were too proud and to stubborn, even to yourself, to accept what was so obvious right from the beginning… Has denial become your new mode of existence? Have these quasi-relativistic speculations become your only tools of dealing with what you have no courage to deal with? There pretty much is Right and Wrong, you chose the easiest relativist path, the lowest level of the most abject nihilism so that you can try and justify yourself, but you know the wrong of your own actions, you know what you should and should not have done, you knew it right from the beginning, didn’t you? When all you wanted was to jump headfast in to the whirlwind of crazy events and let them carry you away, because in speed you tend to lose your mind, because speed is faster than the flow of your thoughts, and thus you have an excuse not to think, not to do anything, but merely float and how little effort does it take to try and stay afloat? You know you’re going to fall apart even if you say to yourself that you’re holding yourself in one piece— in this latent breakdown that you are already going through…

How little effort does it take to try and stay afloat and what does that accomplish?
Is there a limit on how jaded you can get? Is there a limit on how much pain you can endure? Is there a limit on how long you can go on, trying to pretend that you’re strong and tough and so very perfect. Will you ever get rid of your self-righteousness?

And if there is a limit, where is it…